The Doctor Is In: Not-A-Surprise-Booster-Shot

Last night, we informed our daughter that she will go in for a booster shot today.

In the name of honesty and transparency, we always tell our daughter what to expect whenever possible. These are two of the most important values we wanted to teach her as early as now.

Before leaving the house this morning.

Of course, this did not go without some crying and whining! Regardless, the baby has to learn that tears do not get in the way. Sure, she can cry if she wants to and as much as she feels like it. What is important is that realizes that no amount of crying will keep her from the inevitable.

We went to the Health Management Office (one of the perks of working parents that I am very keen on) and the Nurses’ Station where they measured her weight and temperature. Much to my surprise, after we stepped down from the scale, she said, “Mommy, come on, let’s go to the doctor’s clinic.” It was as if she wanted to say, let’s get this over and done with! Good sign that it was sinking in.

Waiting for our turn for her pedia, after she decided to stop crying.

But you know what, neither setting proper expectations nor letting her cry her lungs out was the most difficult part. It was really explaining to her why we had to do it. We, parents need a lot of patience, a lot of creativity and a whole lot of reading.

So, patience and creativity are self explanatory. But, reading? Yes! You would not want to tell them something made up, would you? Nope. Especially not when they have reached the tape recorder status. You know, when everything you tell them, big or small, they repeat to you and to everyone else? They remember. Might as well let them remember the right ones, right?

It is not about reciting what we read from Google or Wikipedia, it is about converting this information into something a toddler would understand or would find delight in. For example, the booster is to keep her healthy. That it acts like a shield so that germs and bacteria would not enter her skin. Or something like that. You get the picture.

Here is where the joy comes in – when you see, hear and feel your lessons being brought to life!

As we entered the doctor’s clinic, she was, afraid but not in the crying state. This was a first. Before she always cried at the sight of the hospital or a doctor. This, I found, is a very good outcome when we 1. tell her the truth/set her expectations (note: more on this in this article – Do You TALK With Your Baby?) and not stop there but also 2. explain to her why this is very important. She mustered the courage to not cry until after the needle left her arm. The doctor, Dr. Dela Cruz and her wife, Tita Fe, were very impressed with our daughter’s behaviour! Dr. de la Cruz was in approval of our practice of letting our daughter know what is going to happen next. Needless to say, my husband and I were very proud parents!

That’s our experience in our purposeful parenting journey. Hope you found this article helpful.

Now, your turn. Share with us your journey and thoughts, too. Like this blogpost and follow my blogsite so we can continue to exchange best parenting practices.

Til next!

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About Emile Therese

Emile Therese is a graduate of the University of Philippines in Diliman with a degree in Psychology. She is happily married. She and her husband, Dennis, are blessed with one amazing daughter (and hopefully at least one more child). She believes that values and character ought to be taught as early as possible and that these are key to community and nation building. This was also how she and her siblings were brought up by their two awesome parents! She is a Certified HR Professional who advocates employee engagement in its entirety. Emile believes that true employee engagement rests on the pillars of basic human needs and in ensuring that process and leadership basics are in place - the employee engagement imperatives. She hopes to contribute to making this world a better place for all of us now and the next generation. She loves sipping tea, conversations, reading and writing. The latter gave birth to two blogs - Purposeful Parenting Journey (purposefulparentingjourney.com) and Engagement Imperative (engagementimperative.com).

4 Responses

  1. I like the title of your blog, and thoroughly enjoyed reading this post and the previous one. 🙂 I agree with you about being honest with our little ones no matter what activity we are indulging in. Of course it has to be age-appropriate (and we can’t overwhelm them with information either) but the more they know and understand, the quicker they will be to face new experiences with acceptance, curiosity, and strength. I admire your parenting skills!

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  2. […] My daughter cries at the sight of a. hospital and b. doctor. I am ok with it, she will outgrow that. One time, her pedia’s wife and secretary suggested for us to just tell her this, “pupunta tayo Jollibee” when going to the hospital. I told her my practice. Which is to tell my daughter at least a day in advance 1. where we are going the next day or so, 2. what we will do there, and 3. what to expect. These are all based on reality. And my daughters pedia agreed that this was the right thing to do – to tell the truth. (An update and more on this in The Doctor Is In: Not-A-Surprise-Booster-Shot) […]

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