I heard the loveliest thing my daughter ever said to me to date. My world momentarily stopped as I tried to rewind what she said in my mind, my heart raced. She held my face, looked me in the eyes and said, “Mommy, you’re great, mom. You’re great.”
It made me so happy and content, it confirmed that I am doing the right thing, that I should continue doing it and encouraged me to be even better.
“Mommy, you’re great, mom. You’re great.”
This is the Power of Positive Affirmations in action. So many articles are written about The Power of Affirmations. However, most of it are positive affirmations for the self. Usually synonymous to positive thinking and self-empowerment.
Here, let’s talk about the power of positive affirmations when done for others.
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The Power of Positive Affirmations for Others in Action
It makes both you and the other person feel good.
Those two sentences were so short, yet so powerful. It took my daughter perhaps 5 seconds to say this but it took me 5 hours (fine, more) of repeating it in my head, sharing to my husband, over and over out of sheer joy. And judging from her smile, my reaction also made her feel good. It’s a cycle!
It develops your relationships, whatever that baseline is, fast! People are naturally drawn to those who like them, those who see them in positive light. I mean c’mon, Facebook is THE Facebook because there you can quantify how many people ‘liked’ you (your photos, your comments, your feelings, etc.). People want to be ‘liked’ and while not everyone is so gung-ho about it, it is still very natural.
Yesterday, in a restaurant, a young lady was selling us a discount card. However, my husband, who is best is math, made mental calculations and we would still end up paying more. The young lady looked so devastated her shoulders drooped and her lips curled the other way, she wasn’t successful in her sales talk. I thanked her and affirmed her selling skills. I said, “you know you are very good at what you do; we really just don’t have budget for this right now, but you are a very good sales person.” It was an honest observation. Now, I’m not a sales authority but that did not matter.
Her face lit up and she warmed up to us fairly quickly. She thanked me and kept coming back to check on our food, the service (no need to raise hand and wait for the knife, she was so attentive she knew what we needed and provided without us asking). She even tried to make friends with my daughter and did some small talk with me. No, not intrusive at all. It only took maybe 2-3minutes. She wished me and my husband a baby boy soon and of course, I wished her more sales.
It is no secret. Positive self-fulfilling prophecies in childhood and a clear, honest and wonderful feedback in adulthood are performance boosters.
My eldest niece is in the stage of learning that she is an individual. As such, she would play alone and as for her toys, she did not want to share. You know there’s a certain phase for that. Now, she has a sister who is younger by two years and my daughter who is a year younger than she.
They both want to play and share toys. They also wanted to play WITH her and SHARE her toys. Of course that resulted to some toddler cat fights.
To resolve this, my brother told her, “well, see you are a great ate (eldest sibling). As such, I am assigning you as the one in-charge.” Goodness, it was like a crowning moment. She was so ecstatic. “Really daddy?!” Now that’s both positively affirming and giving responsibility.
Anyhow, after this she was exceptionally caring for the younger ones. She kept an eye on them and made sure that she shared her toys and that they shared as well. She was living up to being a great ate.
Three more Thoughts to Ponder
1. Affirmations are powerful, positive or negative. So, always be careful what you say to yourself and to others.
2. Be generous with positive affirmations. It does not only benefit you but others as well. The more benefactors, the merrier!
3. (Honestly and positively) Affirming others is not second nature to some of us. It requires a bit of wiggling out of our comfort zone, pushing the limits of the good things that we can say to others. Say it anyway. The more you do it, the more comfortable you become. Whenever an opportunity presents itself, positively affirm others.
Imagine what change that will bring to our world!
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